The emotional issues of a 'People Pleaser'

People pleasers are people who are helpful, kind and generous with their time. The reason why they are these lovely people who will do anything to help someone and always appear nice is because they want to be seen as a nice person. They need offers for gratification, they want offers to 'like' them. But however, even though they are these lovely people they have serious self esteem and emotional issues. Since, their identity has been built around offers gratification and offers opinion of them, and for offers to develop this nice opinion of them. For this, these people are willing to be whatever offers want them to be. This causes them to have serious issues with their boundaries, they have no sense of self. What they want to do and what they don't want to do, there identity is weak. Since they have let others walk all over them for years. It is built around offers, this leads to these people to suffer since there intuition and inner voice has been ignored so much by them because they view doing something for their own self interest or doing things not for offers as selfish. And subconsciously they may view themselves and selfish and wrong, and since they have this void and pain within. They ignore themselves and their intuition, they have no barriers and a sense of wants and needs because subconsciously that is selfish. So these people are more likely to compromise so much with offers they feel heart and ignored, they are easily abused by offers, they are more likely to develop and eating disorder since by fattening themselves up that there way of developing barriers and strength. Also they are more likely to have an un fulling life, where they are never truly doing what they want to do. In today's clarity blog, we will be learning about the emotional issues of 'people pleasers' and what they can do to regain a sense of self.

The most important lesson that a people pleaser should learn is that, it is not wrong to say 'no'. That it is ok to be rude sometimes when necessary. Offer people's emotions are not your responsibility, it is your responsibility to be yourself. Even Though being 'liked' is great, and offers can make you feel great. It is artificial, people's opinions of you change quickly and often you need to prioritise your own view of yourself. To develop good boundaries, you must get back in tune with your intuition. This is done by, paying attention to your emotions, your initial emotions. Keep account of them This can be done by making a diary. Write what you're doing throughout the day, how that makes you feel in that moment. You initial thoughts and feelings, give you an insight on your emotions and your intuition. Pay attention to what feels right. By reconnecting with your truth, you are changing your picture of yourself. Since you are learning that it's not just about what offers like it is about what you like. That you have an individual with your own needs.

There is a beauty in people pleasers, some ability that they have developed from learning how to be nice to offers. Which is that they are very good at reading offers in there environment, they know people's suttle changes because i order to feel better about themselves they have had to rely on offers and their emotions. This emotional intelligence is a real skill since it allows them to gain an extra insight on offers. Quite often peoples pleaser became that way because they grow up around parents who either expected a lot from them, parents who are people pleasers themselves or parents that believe that there child must reflect everything good about them. These parents can fall under the charagorie of being narcissistic, since they all demanded that their child was everything they wanted them to be and more. In order to gain approval they had to be kind and do things offers demanded of them regardless of their on thoughts. Enougher way to heal this, is for the person to remove themselves from their family for a long period, where they are no longer given offers demands. Where they are able to listen to their intuition and there thoughts.