Revenge –Best served warm.

The common phrase, ‘revenge is best served cold’, means that when making a revenge on a person you need to be ‘cold’. You need to be heartless, and unforgiving. However, those of us with spiritual beliefs, or those of us who are educated know that revenge is an act of stupidity. Since revenge, anger and intolerance is not effective at resolving a situation, the negativity corrupts and destroys a person. Dwelling such negativity makes you just as bad as those who acted out on you causing those emotions. Instead, we should behave properly. We should simple ignore it, or handle it like an adult and talk it out. Find resolution without having to harm others or yourself. Which is a good approach to handling the situation, however it is not effective and sometimes ignoring it only builds more anger within that you are not correctly dealing with. In addition, by talking it out does not prevent you from experiencing a similar situation with that spiteful person again. In today’s clarity blog, it will discuss an alternative approach to revenge and how to find true disclosure and forgiveness.

Do not consider revenge as this negative battle. Essentially the purpose of revenge is to exchange emotions, to make the other person feel the same way you do. The person whom you cannot stand and are battling with either internally with thoughts or in reality. You to, are in a backwards relationship, as any relationship you have emotional ties to that person. Recognizing, that resentful emotions only bring us closer to the person where resentful of. The only way to stop this is by resolving those bonds by showing kindness. The complete opposite of resentfulness and anger is kindness and love. There are many was to do this, but first we must remove the anger. Then though this may seem like an incredible psychopathic process. Try to picture yourself acting out on revenge, what you will do, how you plan, how the other person reacts, what you will say and act out as. Just picture it all as though you are doing it. It feels better, to picture yourself having the upper hand. After that, consider why are you so resentful to this person what they did against you, and how they make you feel. The flip it, consider what you did to make that person feel the way you made them feel, why they reacted the way they did. Even if it is irrational, think beyond what happened. Think of offer reasons. Then, show kindness to this person. Be nice; do something unexpectedly which is kind to redeem yourself. On the other hand, possible decide to talk it out and get to know the other person. Prove yourself and who you are, find ways to better the situation. In the most loving and unaggressive way possible. For example, a family member decides to use your bathroom. You have offer guest around that day, so you say ok. However, they bump into a precious orpiment on their way to the toilet. In addition, blame you for the accident saying ‘you shouldn’t have left it there anyway’. You feel angry because they are refusing to apologise and something once important to you is gone. You have a rough in front of everyone and create a bad atmosphere you blame that offer person and have a lot of resentment. After doing the process of picturing your revengeance, and consider their point of view to the story. You decide, to talk to this person kindly, and tell them that they can visit anytime. In addition, things resolve themselves. The power of being conscious and acting on love instead of hatred is vital; working through your emotions effectively is the best way to pay off all of your resentment.