FOMO – Fear of Missing Out. How to overcome it.

Life is a journey; it is a pilgrimage of strength, joy and hardships, with the goal to survive and reach a place where one can look back at life pride on the journey you have made. Look back with pride at all the great people you have brought along on your journey, the mark you have left on the world and the person you have become. However, for some, they are easily discontempt with what they have accomplished so far. They compare their lives to offers and feel as though they have missed some create opportunities, ones where others have had so much fun on. This feeling for some people is difficult to deal with, since at their core, what they truly want out of life is to experience everything everyone else has experienced. It is to build the status quo and to have a sense that you have had a great life. Which is natural, these beliefs go as far back as in childhood. Growing up with a siblings who always where involved and having all the fun without us and we desire to be like that. Alternatively, having happy experiences removed from us at some point, and us learning not being involved is bad. The causes really varies, however a feeling of lack and not feeling as though you are ‘enough’ to give yourself happiness is incredible damaging. Because the reality is that, you may never feel contempt in life, no matter how much you try because this void has not be healed or dealt with. In today’s clarity blog, we will be exploring FOMO. What it is and how to handle and resolve the issue.

On social media, you are constantly bombarded with images of people living theses happy and luxurious lives. You end up feeling discontent and left out. Your mind in that moment of FOMO, is reminding itself of that negative experience in childhood where you felt left out. Either because you were punished because of your behavior and missed out on something you wanted, or because you were a shy child, ad taught that there was something wrong in being the way you were and told that you ‘missing out’ on experience offer kids normally have. That feeling of not being accepted, feeling discontempt and isolated, is difficult. Therefore, you subconsciously make it you objective to experience everything and never miss out. Viewing those images on Instagram or not receiving an invitation to a party ends up hurting you more than most people.

The key is to, go back to that past experience. While thinking about what your missing out on go to that source memory. In addition, finding ways to heal the inner child. In addition, finding ways to reverse that belief you have, which is limiting you. Teach yourself that you are enough, that you have experienced so much already. In addition, counter argue that view with a positive mantra, which will improve your emotion and how you feel. For instance, teaching yourself that it is not you missing out, it is they ‘they are missing out on being contempt with the present’. That material things and experiences ae artificial, they only give temporary happiness. Realize that it is the ego, which is causing you to feel the way you do; the ego wants to find an identity with those material things and experiences. Since the ego, the one is gaining the most out of those things. The ego, depletes when you decide to be grateful for the moment even when nothing is going on, since it has no identity to create. So no suffering can for. In addition, to find happiness within is the key to feeling truly contempt.