Independents and Codependents- Why We Should Apply Both

The art of being both dependent upon others and demanding support from others as well as being self-sufficient and independent enough to deal with life is the most natural way to go about life. We need to build bonds of trust and support with those who are around us, regardless of what that trust was originally built apron. Additionally being independent enough to pioneer your own life, make your own decisions and be fearless enough to do things on your own, regardless of how difficult and stressful it may be. If you're too codependent, it’s a sign that you need to stop following offers you need to start learning from others. People who are overly independent, it is time to start building healthy expectations and trusting others in order to find more support and happiness. To find and maintain this balance is incredible important, since it is the balance of both trusting self and others. Trusting others alone is a lack in trust in self and vice versa. In today’s clarity blog, we will be discussing the balance between codependents and independence, and why uniting them both creates a more fulfilling and natural life.

As human beings, we are social animals. Since we live with and among others all the time. Wither that is a town, tribe, community or the people our live and work among. We form communities to guarantee survival, since groups offer defense from threats as well as a sense of belonging. We require others. In every aspect of our lives, we are supported by other and rely on others whether we admit it or not, from something as small as relying on farmer to produce your potato is, relying on others to deliver mail, create functioning electronics. We need to accept that independence is not natural it is unhealthy because regardless we still rely on others and in addition we are not allowing yourself to trust others. This causes stress, feelings o fatigue and serious issues about being amongst others and broadening who we are. The ego would have us believe that we are our own responsibility and only we alone can provide for ourselves. Which is true to an extent, however those beliefs are highly closed. We need to re-teach ourselves to trust, it is natural for us to have to have expectations and to receive support from others. Examples such as asking for help every now and again, asking questions from others to support you knowledge, asking for small favors in reward for your favors. Interacting, which benefits you, even if that is letting off steam on others and having a conversation. The ego of a highly independent person will have difficulty doing this, however it starts by small gestures ad escalating more on wards. Asking for your dropped pen and asking some to help pick it up for you and saying ‘thankyou’ in return.

We as individuals must have an individual experience. Each one of us is unique in our own ways, in how we look, think and our habits or tendencies. Therefore, for those overly dependent people, it is time they create boundary and build self-trust. To stop following and leading by example and to start learning and creating for yourself. Recognizing that you are responsible for your own life and actions, and it is under your control either to fix that mistake or to cover it up. It is about making bold independent steps, from cooking for yourself .Learning how to go shopping and organize your day alone. Trusting your knowledge and ability’s. Over time, that person who you rely on. It is time to communicate and set clear boundaries, since yet again it is the ego, which is causing you to identify with others. This ego, need to learn that rather than building identity around others, it’s about taking and giving identity to others in a mutual and healthy way. Being committed to your life.