Self-Destructive Behaviour

When someone behaves in a self-destructively they continue to do and act in ways which harm them and others with full awareness or no awareness of what they are doing. This takes place when people feel an immense amount of frustration and anxiety to a situation which they purely cannot cope in. Yet self-destructive behaviour does not always stem from extreme emotions, a bad habit can become self-destructive when we feel the need or gain an addiction from a continually habit that harms yourself and your relationships. To be honest we all have behaviours and frustrations about things that have the potential to become self-destructive or already have become self-destructive. In today’s clarity blog we will be discussing how self-destructive behaviour can escalate and recognising our own behaviours.

In extreme cases of self – destructive behaviour, the issue becomes an unrevisable habit which has become both self – destructive and a coping mechanism. For instance, situations such as self –harm, over eating, physical aggression and abuse, substance abuse (alcoholism and drug abuse). Those sorts of habits are so dangerous because the person doing it has awareness of their behaviour and understand that it is causing them serious issues and stem from serious issues. Yet the habit has become their way of coping, they cannot remain straight without it. For these addictions all they know is suffering, and they feel incredibly uncomfortable when they are removed of that coping mechanism. It’s a relief from reality, even if it is self-destructive. The behaviour leads to a poor relationship with themselves, and that is reflected in the relationships they have with others. They may constantly abuse someone’s kindness, and attract people with similar habits in their life.

On the other hand, there are often self – destructive behaviour a lot of people engage in. For instance, lying regularly to offer, the biggest sign of insecurity, when our self-esteem is threatened we lie in order to cover the truth. Yet our lies always get caught out, and what makes them so self-destructive is how they ruin our reputations and relationships with others. Enough example is relying on some medium which allows us to alter our appearance, behaviour and health drastically, things like plastic surgery, over eating, internet addiction, alcoholism, smoking, skin bleaching. These habits are both expensive and take a toll on our perception of ourselves and are an addiction in themselves. The key about these habits is that it can easily become uncontrollable, with no limit on how much or often you can do these things.

In order to heal and overcome these issues is to stop the excuses, whatever reason for you to engage in the self-destructive behaviour. If it is a traumatic childhood, feeling abundant, whatever it may be. It all starts with your mindset and develop a healthy one of progress. Be deeply honest with yourself, and seek help. Talk to someone, join a rehab group or receive psychiatric help. Seek further advice and help which is more specific for your issue. And go through that period of old turkey and purging yourself with enough acquit support and a safe environment to do so. The best thing is to be present with yourself even when your suffering. Try to link that coping mechanism with suffering, associate the mechanism as causing pain. For instance, associating alcohol with poison and causing you sickness, associating lying as beyond rude and unethical. Consider a world where you do not suffer from that self- destructive behaviour. Consider the quality of relationships, how healthy you may be, what progress you may make in work or school. Recognise that you are not a slave to the bad habit and the power is in you to change. The truth is you may not be the only one suffering and wanting to change, and creating a community can be supportive. To conclude, whatever habit you may have which is self –destructive, to break the cycle all it takes is love, find love for yourself or/and from offers and from the power of live is to decide that you have the power to change.