Pride or Arrogance – When is pride Become Arrogance.

To be proud of an achievement can be incredibly rewarding. For some to be proud in life is something that they strive for, to have that feeling of completion and recognition for what you have achieved. Yet, there is a line that someone may pass were being proud becomes arrogant and rude. Were that person sits on some high chair, and acts like everyone is less than them and will make negative comments. The gap between being just proud and humble to being arrogant and boasting can be a huge one. In today’s clarity blog we will be discussing the differences between arrogance and pride, to truly discover when how does pride go too far.

Both pride and arrogance are both constructions of the ego. The ego relies on pride as a form of self-reward. Pride is also a form of identification, we tend to identify the most with what we are proud of, which builds aspects of the ego. And the ego, is concerned with judgement and what compares you with others and your personality is contracted to contrast and compare yourself from others. The ego is not bad, we all have an ego, and it benefits us in having more understanding of the self and what boundaries and priority’s we have. Consider how like pride, arrogance is a more extreme version of that ego we have. Which is more concerned with fulfilling that high sense of identification and reward by putting others down, acting overly proud to maintain it. The key reason to why some people need to be arrogant to maintain the sense of reward is out of fear. Fear is the defence system of the ego, it is what presence it from harm arrogance is a form of protection, since it I preventing that sense of pride from being heart. The ego uses arrogance to cling onto that pride, since it feels as though it is threatened, and defends itself by playing up and being rude.

The main source of pride we have is accomplishment, to have achieved something significant. It is appropriate to be happy, to talk freely about how proud you are. It’s not boasting unless your actions purpose is to only cause upset or anger to those around us. While the best way to deal with a boaster is not to feed it, don’t make them feel any prouder. And remind them of their irrational behaviour. Sometimes too much, is too much. Recognise how it is fear of loss which leads us to being arrogant. And the best way of dealing with that is to heal from the feeling of lack, which is what arrogance is threatened of. Lacking that sense of importance.