Invalided Emotions- ‘It’s just her hormones’ or ‘Man up’

The modern women while growing up is told that their feelings, thoughts and actions are primarily dictated by their hormones. That as young women their actions are irrational, meaning they have no valid reason to even exist and are caused by some biological hormone. We have gotten to use to hearing it, and some women hear it far too often from some family member or friend. And women grow up believing that when they are feeling sad, heartbroken or Angry, that it’s all solved by a hot bath, some chocolate and a romantic movie to solve all off this. On the other hand, Men when feeling those heartbroken emotions or depressed are usually cheered up with an alcoholic drink and get busy discussing anything with their mates apart from how they are feeling. Men may briefly discuss their emotions, but that’s on occasionally, most just don’t discuss at all and try to deal with it by bottling it all up. The point is that society does not know how to properly deal with negative emotion, we only understand the short term relief from them and don’t efficiently deal with them. In today’s clarity blog were going to address the controversial subject of how society deals with emotions and how to effectively deal with it.

At first sight it may appear that women receive the most emotional support. Women are able to openly discuss their emotions and receive helpful advice from others, which is incredible true. Yet women are only given a short term remedy, advice to relax and enjoy themselves until there over it. Women also run the risk of being judged for their emotion by offer women, and are told they may just be over reacting. When women need to discuss and deal with difficult and heavy emotion, then short term it is nice to treat ourselves and relax. But to deal with it after getting over it, is to deeply analyse your emotions. Talk to offers for advice and therapy for this issue with someone you trust. And explore ways to heal from it emotionally, do some inner child work if necessary. Often If an event or person has upset you, explore if it’s true? Look at the other person’s perspective and observe the person and event. A helpful tool is Katie Bryon’s watch your neighbour worksheet, and offer techniques which are free and downloadable. It is also important that you think of one positivity of the pain, anger or heartbreak your experiencing, consider it as something you have learned and that has benefited your life. When doing the healing process include someone else possible or do it yourself. It should be a therapeutic process and a little bit time consuming, but it’s worth it. You become far more mentally stable, since you are able to broaden your perceptive off event and your emotions. How you feel is no longer alien to you and you gain an awareness.

As women labelling an emotion as just a hormone or as something every irrational and pointless is incredible damaging. In society this idea is further portrayed as the crazy ex-girlfriend, the hormonal grudge teen, the star crushed pre-teen. And so forth. Women’s emotions are mocked, and everything is as something that is easily grown out off and forgotten. Which is pretty depression, we ignore how character development takes place with every phase, how it benefits us. That our emotions are important, that there not this distant thing. This alien emotion with no real purpose. In society as men women and just human beings we need to treat our negative emotions seriously. Confront them and deal with them physically, emotionally and psychologically in order to understand what or emotions mean. The purpose they have, and that they are valuable to growth and to accepting and loving yourself. When you run away from them through short term relief you are not are only kissing the wound and not taking effective emotion to deal with it.

On the other hand, the approach most men take to their emotion is incredible unhealthy, and men as they grow older tend to address their emotions far more unhealthily. In the UK, the one of the biggest killer of men passed the age of 40 is suicide (alongside cancer and strokes). And the reason why is because men isolate their emotions. A lot of them do not confront any off them, rather they deal with it through drink/food and socialising. That’s also emotionally damaging since you are not facing it and rather your masking it, telling yourself it will go and you’ll be fine and it won’t. Next thing you know a heavier more upsetting emotion begins to emerge in your life and you have no clue in dealing with it. Try the more feminine way, and actually discuss it. With whoever your comfortable with and receive helpful advice. It is not just advice, but it’s an interaction. You have the opportunity to actually relate to someone and hear what they think and feel. It does not make you less off a man, because men stereotypically are brave and there is no other bravery then going against society and instinct by choosing to discuss how your feelings a confront them. The thing you’re the most uncomfortable with. Do the inner child work, the Bryon Katie worksheet, shadow work and try all of them. Begin to dig deeper into your emotions on a psychological, emotional and mental level. Explore different perceptive off how you feel and effectively take the advice.

To conclude the mainstream idea of dealing with emotions based on you gender and who you identify as is flawed. It is not helpful since you’re only alienating your emotions, a natural thing we all experience and something we all deal with. We need to deal with it short term and long term. Start to deal with it through techniques that encourage you to look at your emotion from different angles and progress. Begin to build an internal understanding of yourself and include offers in the process and encourage offers. Imagine a world where we are more accepting of emotion and no longer have unhealthy relationship with them the progression we can all make.