Overcoming Regret

Regret is a difficult emotion to overcome, since your mind fixates on what should have been done, how you have flawed a can never change what you have done. It’s tough since depending on what situation/event or action your regretting it you can’t just apologies, suddenly change the situation or regain the missed opportunity. Your feelings get the best of you and you become less confident, weak and begin to self-pity. In fact, it is the self-pitting that leads to you wanting to change things, improve what has taken place and prove to yourself and others you're better than this. Since self-pitting is where you stop focusing on the event/situation/action and your start to focus on yourself and how you feel. This leads to more clarity on what you truly want. In today’s clarity blog I will discussing ways to actively deal with, overcome and move on from regret and learn that there is always a way.

The worst form of regret is the regret you feel after doing or saying something stupid to someone that is important to you. An action you know was wrong and unjust yet under the situation you just did it. You can never take it back or change it. The logical mind is beating out up, your gut is tearing you apart and you're too embarrassed to admit that was you that situation. Apologising appears to make things better, showing how censer you are and trying to laugh it all off. And by putting yourself in the perspective of the other person can help you to assesses what happen, in this process predict the sorts of thing they may think and often it is not as serious as you think. Occasionally you realise that apologising is not enough, and you can’t change. As mentioned self-pitting helps to deal with it, and the best way of dealing with it is through time. Over time things may work out, recognise that life is constantly changing. Discussion with a close friend can make you feel better. Also doing a kind deed, like giving to charity, taking an action to improve someone else’s lives will make you feel better. When those apologias or, you’ll feel good and forgiven. You have to regain a trust and be able to trust yourself and that process is something to be proud off.

It is not just offers we can overstep a mark on, we can make a stupid error in our own life. Easily make the wrong decision, miss out on something valuable or let yourself down in an opportunity. And, that sucks. It leads you to believe that you will never reign what you have loss. This both weakens your self-esteem and trust in yourself. The best way to overcome this is to look at it all subjectively, consider yourself a psychiatrist or someone with great intellect and wisdom. Admit to yourself what has happened, and with your new subjective and distant outlook. Find resolution, loopholes to improve the situation. Some are incredible obvious and offer resolutions that best work is more difficult. But there is loopholes. Whether that means actively searching, doing or altering something then that is what it takes.

To conclude regret can teach you lessons you currently need, and cause the best changes. Enough piece of advice is to recognise nothing is truly lost or missed out on, there is the present and opportunities to regain what yoyo lost to get what you want. It may not be ideal, but it’s not about what it is it’s about how you feel.