How to Concur the Negative Spiral of Comparing Yourself to Offers.

We all know that one person, we either met them at school, work or even online, worse lives appear practically perfect. There attractive, athletic and have amazing friends who are always out on some gig or vacation. Or you lust over that incredible intelligent person who always gets top grades, as well as having plenty of time for an active social life. When thinking of those people, we begin to feel even worse about ourselves, as though were living life wrongly. We should be more intelligent, Athletic, sociable, adventures and so forth. It goes on for eternity. We begin to feel far more insecure in our own ability’s, we view ourselves as flawed. In today’s clarity blog I will be exploring how to avoid that spiral and change who we pay attention towards.

When we are feeling insecure or depressed we are more likely to compare ourselves towards overs, since we already have low confidence and feel inadequate in ourselves. This only further adds to the problem, comparing thoughts are actually a symptom of a wider issue. That wider issue of depression, insecurity and self-defeating thoughts are so deeply embedded with negative beliefs. We convince ourselves life out of our control, some people are naturally greater than us, we are unworthy of love. We are not consciously aware of those thoughts. It takes a lot of inner questioning and developing to unearth those thoughts from the subconscious. Often it is a huge unfortunate event from childhood, or even resent catastrophe which our subconscious interprets or repeated phrases heard that we here which convince us they are true. The stronger those beliefs the more we manifest it into our lives. So it’s time to question them. Ask yourself are they true? Does that belief have my best interests in mind? And reverse them. Prove that belief to be false, give past examples where life has worked the way you wanted it to, prove that you have value. Often it can be taking steps toward improving your life. The goal is to reverse those negative beliefs and gain a long-term appreciation for yourself.

The moment we realise hat we are having thoughts of comparison towards offer people, it is key to consider one thing you have that the other person doesn’t. It can be as insignificant or personal as possible. For example, she may have a new mini cooper, but I have me befriend Cheryl. So long as I make you feel somewhat better. It is also key to keep this phrase in mind, you as an individual are one of a kind the only person you should be comparing yourself to is your past self. Consider certain hurdle you have overcome, build your confidence on how well you have faced a past obstacle. Practising graduate, writing a list of what we are grateful off and routinely reading it boosts our self-confidence and how contempt we are with life. And remember everyone has their personal flaws and insecurity’s. An old saying “the grass always seems greener on the other side”, we convince ourselves that enough person’s life is better and it may not be. These thought habits create a greater sense of self identity. Also mediation and spending time in thoughtless can defeat the ego. When we compare ourselves to offers it is the ego’s way of focusing on the material world. It is well known that Buddha once spent 49 days straight meditating which destroyed his ego, incorporating more of it will heal over original wounds.

In all honesty, don’t hold unfair thoughts and beliefs which only make us feel worse about ourselves. We are all special in our own ways, and hold the same potential. Recognise and be grateful for what we have, rather than what overs have.