How to remain Sane when Living with a Narcissist

Yesterday’s blog ‘The Narcissist Under Sheep’s Clothing’ (please read that blog before this one) , I discuss the tell-tale signs of Narcissist. From that blog you may have of had the realisation, that in fact a certain family member or colleague fits the criteria. It may be cheesy to mention but by you simply recognising that fact, you have already become more immune on their control. Because by being aware of how they manipulate you, you can find certain loop holes and that you how more power now. Narcissist can inflict a lot of emotional harm onto a lot of people, if you truly prioritise your personal growth and happiness use this information as a tool. This clarity blog, is purely advice from personal experiences.

Honestly if you are in a relationship with a Narcissist, leave that relationship quickly. That person you’re with will only make you feel drained and tired. They will centre your life around there’ and make you trip over yourself in order to make them happy. There mood changes incredible quickly, the second you announce your leaving they do anything, practically anything to keep you. Use your guilt against you, spread rumours about you, physically harm you, glue themselves to the door. Anything. The most efficient way is to ignore them, get a friend involved or a close loved one who will be present with you and help you leave them. After breaking up, they may continuously confront you and apologies. They don’t mean it. They’ll say they will reform their ways, but they may for a week. Then go back to old patterns. Once you left them don’t turn back. Even after breaking up with one and back on the dating scene, you may end up with a very similar character again. Learn to recognise the personality triggers and leave. You deserve better.

Whilst If a family member you will face daily is a Narcissist, then you may not be the only one to recognise this. Within the family, this member does have a lot of influence over finances and the rest of the family, deciding when, where and what takes place within the house involving them. Or possible this family member has alcohol/ drug abuse history. In this case, you need to be aware of multiple different things. There is always a favoured or ‘golden’ child that the Narcissist treats nicely and compares all offer family members to that person. It’s the ‘why can’t you be more like your brother/Sister/Cousin complex’. Stay away from that certain sibling, since there only going to become a Narcissist themselves. In order to survive in that household, it’s good to keep your distant, I’m telling you to endure it. But make offers aware of the truth. Wait until University, or until you financially dependant by yourself to get out. Work on your best talents and try to not focus on the situation if this Narcissist is more physically, emotionally or psychologically abusive in any way. Report to friends and even social serves. Try and build some support network in order to help you cope and grow into a sane individual. Keep your emotional distance, if this family member is a parent then don’t feel bad for loving them and having a care for them. It’s natural that you love this person, you have no control over that, yet you have control of the level you are willing to give. Its incredible difficult, but you’ll survive it.

To conclude, you need to take Narcissist seriously on how you deal with them. You need both emotional strength and personal integrity regarding offers. Remember in the 21st century you are never alone in a bad situation, and don’t let anyone make you think you are. View the Narcissist as someone with a bad mental condition and that in fact Narcissist become the way they are as a result of suffering. The key is to let yourself be the victim to a cycle of suffering.